DAY 2: Grief is Energy (And You Are Not 'Bad' for Feeling It)

Welcome to Day 2. How are you feeling? Whatever the answer, it's okay. Remember your Permission Slip from yesterday.

Today, we're going to talk about that heavy, overwhelming feeling you know so well: Grief.

Here is one of the most important things you will learn on this journey: Grief is not a 'bad' emotion. It is just energy.

Think about the word "e-motion." It means energy in motion. Just like love, joy, and peace are high-frequency, light, and fast-moving energies, grief is a very dense, heavy, and slow-moving energy.

It's not "negative" in a moral sense. It is a natural energetic response to a profound loss.

When we are in that dense energy, it can feel like we are drowning or stuck in thick mud. Our natural instinct is to fight it, to push it away, or to distract ourselves 24/7. We think, "I shouldn't feel this," "I need to be strong," or "This feeling is 'low-vibrational' and bad."

But here is the secret: What you resist, persists.

Fighting the energy of grief is like trying to battle a wave in the ocean. You will only exhaust yourself. You cannot think your way out of it, and you cannot fight it into submission.

The only way to heal is to move the energy. And the first step to moving it is to stop fighting it and simply acknowledge it.

By naming your grief, you take its power away. You stop being the sadness and you become the witness to the sadness. This creates a tiny bit of space, and in that space, healing can begin. You are not the storm; you are the sky watching the storm cloud pass.

Action (The 'How'):

Today, we are not trying to fix anything. We are just practicing a simple, powerful mindfulness tool. I call it the "Name It to Tame It" practice.

Your task today is to try this at least once. When a wave of grief hits—whether it feels like sadness, sudden anger, emptiness, or guilt—do this:

1. Pause. Just for a second. You don't have to stop what you're doing, just pause your internal spiraling.

2. Name It. Say it in your head or (if you're alone) out loud. Don't judge it, just name it.

   • "This is grief."

   • "Ah, this is a wave of sadness."

   • "I'm feeling the energy of anger right now."

   • "This is what loss feels like in my body."

3. Honor It. Add a simple phrase of acknowledgment. This is crucial. You are validating your own experience.

   • "This is here because I love."

   • "I honor this feeling. It is a part of my healing."

   • "This is a wave, and I am safe. It will pass."

That's it. You are not trying to make the feeling go away. You are simply meeting it with awareness instead of resistance.

Example: You're washing dishes and a memory hits you, and your chest tightens.

• Old way: "Oh god, not again. Stop it. I have to get this done. I can't fall apart." (Resistance)

• New way: (You pause for a breath). "This is a grief wave. It's here because I miss them. I honor this. It's okay." (Acknowledgment). Then you continue washing the dishes.

See the difference? You are not dwelling. You are acknowledging.

Your only job today is to be a compassionate observer of your own heart. Stop fighting the waves and just start naming them. This is a profound act of self-love.

Well done. I'll see you tomorrow for Day 3.